“It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.”
Research has shown that African American children with natural hair (especially girls) are bullied because of the texture of their hair at a higher rate than any other race. Not only that, but some schools have put bans on hairstyles targeting African American children. In my opinion, we -- as parents and as a culture -- have to break all of the stigmas. I am a firm believer in being your child’s greatest advocate. Teaching your children how to embrace their culture is one of the greatest lessons you can teach them.
Here are some tips and beliefs by which I live:
Tell your children they are beautiful/handsome and smart as often as possible. Children need these types of affirmations from their parents and other important individuals in their lives. This will help develop self-love.
Never allow anyone to refer to your child’s/children’s hair as nappy, too thick, kinky, or harsh. Educate your friends and children about different types of hair texture. Reverse those negative descriptors, and replace them with positive terms.
If you have daughters, I encourage you to be their model. Teach them different ways to style and care for their hair. Start with styling tools (comb, brush, and detangling comb). During this bonding experience, talk to them about the importance of hair care. Make it fun. This is a teachable moment that will last a lifetime.
The same applies if you have sons. Develop a regimen for their hair care, as well. Although they are boys, their hair should be healthy too. Show them the proper way to wash and moisturize their hair.
Yes, keep your children hydrated and their scalp moisturized. You can achieve both by increasing their water intake. This will promote a healthy scalp. I like to spritz my children’s hair with a mixture of water and black castor oil at least 1-2 times a week.
Que Chandler is a Fab Mom of 3, Fashion Blogger, Lifestyle Blogger, Model, & Empowering 1 Mom at a time
Que is also a guest blogger for NHHE